It’s time for giving, may I suggest we focus on giving the kind of gifts that will build your relationship?
Here is a list of the TOP 10 GIFTS just the kind every wife wants from her husband, that she can’t really ask for:
Be her friend…
Go on a date together. Do fun things together. Plan trips even if they will be short. These are the best moments to share your struggles and dreams. Most wives are very lonely and feel emotionally disconnected -so be that best friend to her.
After all, marriage is nothing without friendship!
Recognise what she does…
Pixie dust is not the reason the house is clean, the pantry is stocked and the kids are washed and tucked into bed. Express gratitude for the little tasks she takes care of that you may usually take for granted.
Here is one great tip on how to show your appreciation; FLOWERS! And make sure it’s her favorite. They say, wherever flowers bloom so does hope. So let the fragrance of hope fill your home!
Let me let you in on a little secret…
Don’t just tell her she is beautiful, tell her why she is beautiful. Say out loud with to yourself, “you are beautiful,” Say it one more time, “you are beautiful.” Great! Now try practicing it on your wife.
Complement the dress that she is wearing, and whatever you do DON’T forget to mention her SHOES, how great her NEW hair color suits her complexion (even if it is not true!)
Tell her she is a great mum. Through at her a woman’s all-time favorite compliment – “you look like you lost weight baby”, even if it is not factual, but hearing this from you, will make her day!
Tell her how smart she is, how talented and great at her work she is. Remember, a woman communicates with feelings, so she doesn’t hear words, she feels them.
Remember that it’s incredibly important that you are incredibly sincere. A woman will always accept a compliment, but nothing builds her self-esteem when she hears it all the time from you. Your wife needs to be consistently affirmed, and the man for the job is you!
The truth is, a woman will never be understood!
For instance, her fascination with shoes, saying the opposite of what she means. …sincere tact is required to console her when she’s had a rough day.
‘Listen’ to her soul -with your heart not with your logic. Say things like: “you are right”, “I’m sorry”, “It sounds like you had a rough day”, “I can’t believe your boss spoke to you that way.” The gift of understanding (connecting with her feelings), not her logic is healing in her soul!
If she is anything like my wife…
Most women don’t remember that the vehicle she drives needs, fuel, oil to operate. So be available to help, fill up her car, get it washed. Hold the baby, help carry the groceries from the car, do homework with the kids.
Ask your wife if she needs anything, give her a break. Apologise when you hurt her feelings. Be kind and considerate. You are going to mess things up, that’s what guys do, but make pretty sure, each time it happens that you -aptly apologize!
Tell her that you love her…
Toys may preserve the boy in a man, but affection preserves the little girl in a woman.
Affectionately express how happy you are to be married to her. Surprise her in the mall by holding her around the waist -yes you read me correctly -soldier! Stroke her hair as you sit together waiting for dinner at the restaurant; tell her that you need her and that she makes you feel great!
Honestly, as a man, I have to pinch myself often as a reminder to practice what I preach.
She deserves it…
A husband can get so comfortable with his wife that he forgets to show her basic respect.
You show respect when you call her or message her when you’re running late. Even if it’s just five or ten minutes later than the time that she was expecting you. Hold open doors for her. Greet her. Smile at her. Look at her when you are speaking. Value her opinion.
These are great gestures that I’m still working and grateful how they have already enhanced our marriage significantly.
Accept her weaknesses…
Understand that she is not you. She will never be you, so she will say or do things that you don’t agree with.
This has been one of the greatest struggles earlier in our marriage. Remember your wife will often see things differently from you, thinks differently from you and handles things differently from you.
Learn to praise her for these strengths!
Be real with her.
Share with her significant experiences in your life. Tell her about what’s happening at work or the incident last night with the boys.
Express when you are worried, angry, sad or happy. Don’t be proud and hard-hearted; nothing will destroy a great date night or special occasion more.
Don’t try to hide or deny your feelings before her.
God gave a man a wife, to be his hospital and doctor. Trust her with your life, Is she is anything like my wife, she will never harm you!
Laugh with Her
Maintain your sense of humor especially in times of stress…
Eliminate mockery and sarcasm. Laugh with each other but never at each other. Watch TV shows like ‘Friends or “The Pink Panther.”
So there you have it, the 10 Top Gifts To Give Your Wife This Christmas.
Our hope is that these gifts will create a rich and precious deposit into your relationship.
Question: What will you be doing differently to deepen your relationship today? Leave your comment below, and share this post.